Self-Esteem

The constant pursuit of high self-esteem, for either ourselves or for our children, has become a cultural norm. When an individual feels better about themselves, they are more resilient to rejection or failure. They tend to bounce back faster when faced with difficulties. Who wouldn’t want this type of resilience in our highly competitive society?

Our society tells us that we need to be above average to feel good about ourselves. Our teens are especially susceptible to this pressure. The intense pressure to be above average in academics, physical appearance, sports/activities, and social standing is felt by the majority. The irony, however, is that we and our children cannot be above average all of the time. We are human and imperfections and failures come with the territory. As a result, we often experience self-esteem as something achievable when we succeed, but something that slips through our fingers when we fail.

Have you ever felt good about yourself when you were invited somewhere, but awful when you were not included? Have you ever felt attractive when receiving a compliment, but unattractive when somebody other than yourself is complimented in front of you? If our self-esteem has a tendency to go up and down based on our latest success or failure, we need to equip ourselves with the appropriate tools to navigate feeling good about ourselves with successes and failures. Lotus Therapy Group specializes in equipping our clients with these tools! Reach out today to break the cycle of ever fluctuating self-esteem!